- I will take quality time for myself. You deserve time away from your loved one. This is not selfish. You have your own identity and interests. Nurture them,
- I am not Superman/Superwoman. You cannot provide unlimited care to your loved one. You have limits. Acknowledging those limits helps reduce your anxiety and improve your loved one’s quality of life.
- I will take proactive steps to reduce my stress level. You should reduce large stressors in your life as well as the stressors that come up at this time of year. Consider starting a sensible exercise program such as walking regularly. Consult with your health care provider to find the best program for you.
- I will spend only what I can afford. If you must cut back, cut back and make no excuses for your situation. Stop exchanging gifts with people you don’t like. My friend Tom says, “Maybe it’s time to assertively and gently give someone a piece of your mind instead of your wallet.” You will feel unburdened-this is a great gift to yourself.
- I will share the care with other family members. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed to ask other family members to help monitor and care for your loved one. At the same time, do not push the tasks onto them with feelings of guilt. This is an opportunity for them to have the positive aspects of caregiving.
- I will strive to understand my negative feelings and emotions. Learn about them and think of ways that you can start to change your situation in the future. Confronting these emotions will make powerful and lasting changes in your life. Do you need to speak with a professional counselor, trusted friend or religious advisor?
- I will enjoy myself, but in moderation. Identify why you are drinking more, smoking more, cursing more or overeating. Even if you can’t stop yourself, at least identify why you’re “acting-out”.
- I will not inflate ray expectations of the season. Often we set ourselves up for disappointment by imagining the perfect Walton’s Christmas. The perfect Holiday is one where you feel loved and share your love with others.
By: Edyth Ann Knox